6/12/2017 4:56:00 AM Ashlyn Martin: Anxiety viewed from the outside
About Ashlyn Martin
Ashlyn Martin is our Spring 2017 Hauser intern for HSJ Online. She is a junior at Hauser Junior-Senior High School. She is an avid reader and writer who also loves playing the piano. She writes all the time, unless she is busy painting or reading. She has completed one book, which she is in the process of self-publishing. Her main goal, her dream aspiration, is to become an art therapist at a children's hospital, because she loves working with kids.
By Ashlyn Martin
Sometimes, we only think about how certain events affect us personally, but there are so many other people outside of ourselves who are changed by things as much as we are. Anxiety is a bully like that. It's not satisfied just being mean to me. It also has to pick on the people around me.
I cannot tell you exactly what anyone in my family was thinking after realized what I was dealing with, but I can tell you that it was a heavy burden on all of them.
It is different than being physically hurt. If you scrape a knee, your mom can bandage it up and make you feel all better. If you break a bone, your dad can drive you to the doctor to get it taken care of. I'm not saying that anxiety is more painful than either of those things. I'm stating that it is much more difficult to heal something that you cannot touch.
I want this to be a little piece of advice for all of the people that deal with someone close to them who has anxiety.
I also want this to be a thank you. The truth is that you- a close friend, a parent, a sibling, whoever you are- are making a difference by wanting to help us.
Anxiety is something that you will not be able to help with, but you try anyway. You keep striving to keep us happy and upbeat. You keep loving us, no matter what. Even when it seems endless and all we want to do is give up, you don't let us.
Even though it seems like you are not making a difference, you are. The best I can say is to be patient with us, be kind to us, let us be alone when we need it, and talk us through it whenever we ask. Help us by listening.